If you start to find excuses to not meet other people or if you find yourself not giving other people a fair chance, I think holding out for that one person is a bad idea.
You never know if they’ll come around and may end up missing a lot of great opportunities!
I know it can be an opportunity to show them that you might not be available forever, but it seems to me there’s a risk here of becoming “buddies” and then never being able to break out of that “friend zone”.
I do think it’s good for them to know you’re going on other dates as they shouldn’t assume they can take all the time in the world.
I’d keep it simple, something like: Hi So-and-so, this is a hard decision as I really enjoy talking to you, but I’m finding myself very distracted by our conversations and it’s preventing me from meeting other people.
Here’s one reader’s situation: I met a woman with online dating who I’m very interested in.
I messaged her and got a quick and friendly response back. She replied that she just started seeing someone else 2 weeks earlier, and she’s just not comfortable dating multiple guys, but that she was interested, and would like to stay in contact. Since then I’ve gone on dates with two other women, which were not successful.
However, if you feel you need to move on to give yourself opportunities for success with other people, this is the approach I would take.
Too often I hear from people who burned bridges when they lost patience…and that’s not helpful to anyone!
But, as long as communication with others continues to happen, I see little harm in sending each other occasional emails.